I've been on both sides of this story.
I understand the deep hurt and desperation that comes when we step on the scale just to cringe at the number that creeps higher and higher. I understand the doubt that comes along the moment we view ourselves as anything but worthy. I know the pain of being criticized and critiqued. I've felt the embarrassment of not being able to do something fun because you are too large to participate. I've cried when my smaller friends have been able to enjoy shopping for cute clothes, wear their two piece swim suits on the boat, and eat just about anything they wanted.
I have battled for every inch, every single pound lost. I have struggled to make healthy habits and completely change my life. I may not be exactly where I hope to be, but I have truly gained so very much through this journey!
I still struggle with the whole confidence thing. You can reach your weight loss goals, but that doesn't mean the internal healing comes along at the same time. It takes time to gain the confidence you've lacked for so long. I struggle with this even now that I feel so much better.
- I am a child of God. He does not make mistakes and He certainly didn't start with you or me!
- No matter how rough you feel, cling to those "Before" pictures. You have fought a battle and those are your trophies!
- Be proud of the story you have. Not everyone can win this battle.
- Go out and share your story. There are more people out there that would love to cheer you on and support you along the way. You will be so surprised!
- Fake it 'til you make it! Some days you'll feel down about your progress, but remember it will pass. Stay positive and you'll make it through!
- Learn to accept compliments. (I struggle with this. I never really know what to say when someone compliments my weight loss efforts or how I look now.) Smile and say "Thank you!" because you have earned it!
- Accept that you'll never be perfect and love yourself even though you aren't!
- Reward yourself when you accomplish a goal. You've worked hard and you deserve it!
- Discover what really makes you happy and go after it. Don't chase the things that stress or upset you.
- Take the time to appreciate what you've been through and how it has shaped you.
- Fix your make up, hair and dress nicely. It does wonders for your confidence!
Y'all, I am by no means an expert at any of this because I truly struggle with it too. These are a few things I've picked up along the way to help build back the confidence I lost. It takes time, patience and lots of practice.