Thursday, October 17, 2013

Just Silly

So I'm assuming most of us in the fitness/weight loss blogging world have seen all of the controversy over the fit mama of three little boys. I know I'm not the only woman around here who kinda agrees with her.

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What bothers me is the fact that women want to just tear her apart instead of being happy for her. That woman has had three healthy, beautiful children and she cares enough about them to take care of herself. She deserves to look great after three long pregnancies!

When did becoming a mother mean that you had to sacrifice your body and health?

You want to know why I have the right to discuss this?

I've actually lived both sides of this situation. 



I know exactly what it's like to stop caring for my body after having a child. I know what it's like to be severely obese and devote one hundred percent of my time to caring for that child. Been there, done that, and realized it wasn't the way for my family to live.


I took control of my health. I know exactly how my healthy lifestyle influences my family. My husband eats better now. He works out with me. And we do it all before that sweet little boy of ours even wakes up. So how exactly are we wrong???



Oh, that's right... We aren't. 

I work full time outside of the home. There are some days that just absolutely wear me out, but I make time to take care of me.

Want to know how our healthier lifestyle affects our child?

He's more active. He eats better. He is happier!

Because his mother cared enough about him to take care of herself and her entire family. Because my husband and child are worth it. I take care of myself so that, God willing, I can be here for him as long as possible. I am not shorting my life by wrecking my body.

All of this controversy boils down to pure jealousy. That mother is simply taking care of herself while raising three young boys. She worked hard for something she believed in and she looks fantastic!

If she can do it, anyone can. How is that shaming? It's simply stating a fact. If she can make the time, there are no excuses for the average mother.


28 comments:

  1. I could not agree with you more. You put everything I have been thinking lately about this into the perfect words. I have followed Maria's blog for awhile now and she is nothing but inspiring. If any of the people hating on her were to actually read her posts on her blog or facebook, they would see that she is a REAL person who struggles with the same things we all do, she has just made it her goal to not allow those "excuses" to take away from her being fit and healthy.

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    1. I like her overall message of making no more excuses for being unhealthy. When I stopped making excuses for my general unhappiness and health issues, I was able to take control of my life and make changes.

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  2. My biggest pet peeve is mothers turning on other mothers. Why!?! What mother cannot understand that every family has their own challenges and it is not up to us to decide what is best for someone else? If the children are not in danger and the mother is doing the best she can, we should be supportive and encouraging. This is no reason for jealousy or judgement. If someone can't understand that, I'm inclined to say they don't have it all figured out like they believe.

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    1. I think every mother struggles. I know I sure do. I'm far from perfect. On a blog or a website, readers see exactly what the writer allows them to. They don't see the every day boring or ugly parts. I think people may forget that sometimes. My mind just keeps going back to the fact that if we (as women) spent half the time supporting and lifting each other up instead of the time we spent knocking others, we'd be so much happy and could accomplish much more. Those women took time to write and complain while they could have done something actually productive.

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  3. I can't believe the amount of crap she is getting!!! You're a bad person because you don't take care of yourself but yet when you do you're a bad person!!!! There is no pleasing people!! Keep doing your thang girl :)

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    1. Isn't it sad that we as a society knock a mother for trying to take care of herself? When a baby is born, all of the child rearing books say "Remember to take care of yourself too". This woman did just that and now we're upset over it?? What??

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  4. I think women are hatin' on her because seeing her look like that forces them to confront their weight issues. Most people like to blame everybody else and everything for their issues. She looks amazing! Her pic says to me "work even harder in the gym!"

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    1. Dead on! It's much easier to hate someone else's achievements than to confront your own issues.

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    2. I completely understand because I used to do this exact same thing.

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  5. Totally agree! I'm like you - I've been on both sides. Weighed 190, got down to 130, now I'm back around 150 and working my butt off to get it back off! I work out in the morning and while my daughter has her practices. We eat healthier and we are all happier. I am super happy for this girl and envious!

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    1. You are one amazing woman! I believe taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your entire family. You see exactly what I'm talking about!

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    1. I read Beth Moore's So Long Insecurity and that book has just really stuck with me. Women tend to pick others apart due to their own insecurities. If we spent more time lifting others up instead of picking them apart, we could find more happiness within ourselves.

      Since reading that book, I am much more aware of how I react to others.

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  7. First of all, you look amazing and all of your hard work is paying off (not just outward appearances either). I agree with you about how great it is that she is a role model for her children, she's an active mom, and her family will reap the rewards as well, however, for people who are working their behinds off but still don't look like that, it can be a bit patronizing. I'm talking about those moms, or dads, who are at the gym and eating right but don't have six pack and 8% body fat.
    I think she looks great and saw her on the Today show this morning, but it feels a lot like what she is highlighting is the way she looks rather than how healthy she is....

    Great post and great conversation!
    Sami

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    1. Now that is a legitimate point from someone who is not trying to knock anyone down! I can totally see that. Some people will work hard but cannot achieve abs like that. I know it's a struggle for me! From my side of things, I know how hard I'm working to see a little definition in my stomach. I can admire someone who can actually get there instead of being angry that she has something I don't!

      I think the majority of the people knocking her aren't those type of people. :) But I love your point of view!

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  8. I totally agree! I think it's awesome that she can look like that with 3 under 3 - and it's motivationg. Cheer her on! You look awesome btw!

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    1. Thank you, Meghan! I don't know how someone with three little ones can do what she's done! I'd barely survive that!

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  9. I saw this story too. I don't understand how it can be shaming other women. If someone else - a stranger - is living their life in a way that makes me feel ashamed then surely that says more about how I feel about myself and my life choices? These people are crazy!!!

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    1. I agree with you. I think their feelings are more about the person's frustrations towards their own perceived flaws. It's sad that they are directing them the wrong way.

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  10. Amen sister!! She looks awesome and you do too...great post. Everything you say makes perfect sense and is so true. My son just turned 5 and I'm still carrying 40 lbs that I need to shed. Reading your blog really puts things in perspective for me...keep it up I/we need it! =)

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  11. At the end of the day she knows what is important to her and her family. By being fit she teaches her kids indirectly. They will become fitter and healthier because she is leading by example.
    People shame on her because they are just jealous of what she has.
    She's teaching her kids right.

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  12. I totally agree with your points (and most everyone else that has written here) that having a child (or children) is not an excuse to let yourself go.
    Too many men also use working a job and trying to raise a family as an excuse to put on 100lbs and not exercise at all (“I’ve got too much responsibility to take an hour out of my day to workout.. that’s a load of bunk!) Fitter parents help instill a yearning for fitness to their kids.
    Excuses to treat your health badly are just that.. excuses. We have all had ones that we have used over our life… and I understand that but to look to somehow who is making things happen for herself and working hard is just jealousy… and it is so easy to be a hater from behind a keyboard!
    But at the same time.. I definitely see Sami’s point as well. For those mothers (and fathers… and busy adults in general) who are working our hard, doing their best with their diets and who have made serious lifestyle changes to get in shape.. yet don’t look anything like her I think it can come off like “showing off”. I think the tagline does reinforce that a bit.. like “Look at me!”. I guess maybe if the presentation would have been a bit different (not the overall message just the way it was presented) than perhaps she wouldn’t have had so much negativity.
    I don’t have any problem with it, but perhaps the presentation had something to do with it.
    Oh and I think you are a great example of what hard work and determination (in the face of challenges) can create… you look awesome!!

    Chris
    http://www.mavrocatstrength.com

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    1. I love your view as well. I think I can understand the whole "What's your excuse" saying. There are several inspirational photos of people overcoming the odds to do fabulous things all over the internet (children running races on prosthetic legs, amputees pushing their bodies to do amazing things many of us only dream of, people over the age of 80 completing marathons). She was simply doing the same thing those others did. She aimed to inspire and it was taken wrong by many. It's tough being a mother, working full time, and running a household. We don't know what she went through to accomplish what she did. We wouldn't judge the child running a race with prosthetic legs or the 85 year old lady running a marathon, but they all used the same line "What's your excuse".

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  13. I totally agree with your points (and most everyone else that has written here) that having a child (or children) is not an excuse to let yourself go.
    Too many men also use working a job and trying to raise a family as an excuse to put on 100lbs and not exercise at all (“I’ve got too much responsibility to take an hour out of my day to workout.. that’s a load of bunk!) Fitter parents help instill a yearning for fitness to their kids.
    Excuses to treat your health badly are just that.. excuses. We have all had ones that we have used over our life… and I understand that but to look to somehow who is making things happen for herself and working hard is just jealousy… and it is so easy to be a hater from behind a keyboard!
    But at the same time.. I definitely see Sami’s point as well. For those mothers (and fathers… and busy adults in general) who are working our hard, doing their best with their diets and who have made serious lifestyle changes to get in shape.. yet don’t look anything like her I think it can come off like “showing off”. I think the tagline does reinforce that a bit.. like “Look at me!”. I guess maybe if the presentation would have been a bit different (not the overall message just the way it was presented) than perhaps she wouldn’t have had so much negativity.
    I don’t have any problem with it, but perhaps the presentation had something to do with it.
    Oh and I think you are a great example of what hard work and determination (in the face of challenges) can create… you look awesome!!

    Chris
    http://www.mavrocatstrength.com

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