Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Be Real

Four years ago, I was obese and miserable. I started looking to the internet for inspiration, motivation, miracles, whatever... And there was a ton of it out there! I immediately started following some of the big name weight loss bloggers. 

I remember thinking, "Oh! They are so fabulous... They look fantastic and they've worked so hard. I can only dream of achieving all that they have...."

Bit by bit, I worked hard. I made better choices, learning as I go. I sure didn't do things perfectly when I started (heck, I still don't and continue to learn as I go). Over time, I saw progress and I loved sharing that with people. 

One of my blog/weight loss heroes posted her measurements not too long ago. I admit it....I was curious about how far off I was. She posts all of these fit, skinny pics and I just wanted to see how far I'd have to go to look like that. 

I measured and jumped back on that post to compare the numbers.... And my measurements were all smaller but one or two. In the back of my mind I kept thinking, "But I don't look anything like those pictures of her....Am I not toning enough? What do I need to switch up to get better results???"

I totally found out her secret....

There are these apps that make your photos look skinnier. And Photoshop is a great tool to have if you're not actually putting in the hard work. Pictures posted by other people of this blogger totally didn't match what she was sharing. 

I felt so let down. Here I was looking up to someone who fakes a lot of their "progress". I don't know if it's the pressure of being a bigger blogger or what, but dang... Totally betrayed. 

Then I got angry... 

Here I am, little ol' me, posting my real life pictures. Sure I may add a pretty filter on mine to make the colors look a little better, but I'm still the same size here as I am in real life. Sure some angles may look more flattering than others, but I am still me. I am real. There are people out there misrepresenting themselves and have fooled so many of us. It isn't fair. 

I don't know about you, but I want to see the realistic side of things. I want to see the hard stuff. Heck, we all know around here that I've packed on ten pounds and set myself back at times. We've all seen that. Because it's realty and it happens! 

I refuse to edit out stretchmarks, cellulite, fat, half my leg....whatever. I'm a work in progress and that's what makes this work. If I edit my photos now, what do I get to show you in two or three months? More edited stuff? When would it ever end? What if my photos don't match the ones other people take of me? What happens if people discover the distorted backgrounds behind me? How can I celebrate something that isn't even real?


That's why you won't find fake here. I've worked my butt off and I don't take the easy (or fake) way out on any of it. At the end of the day, I'm the one who has to live with that. I look in the mirror and know what I do is real. It's for me. I don't have to do it for anyone else and that, y'all, is why I don't feel the need to have a skinny app on any of my photos. I am proud of the work I've put into this.

Be honest, be real, and be you! 

Celebrate the real successes because they are oh-so sweet! 


  1. This is exactly why I love you. I've been following you for probably a year or so now, just randomly liking your posts on FB or IG, but I've never commented until now. I have a feeling I know which blogger you're referring, but I don't want to say. Regardless, there is a blogger who at least fits this same bill as who you're talking about, and I can't tell you how let down I was when I found out the progress wasn't really progress, especially when (like you said) your measurements don't match the picture. You are so much more inspirational than the blogger I used to be inspired by. I just wanted you to know that. Your realness (if that's a word) is something I love, and I always go running to your blog when I see you have updated! Thank YOU for being YOU!

  2. Awesome!! I love that you a real. A couple questions if you have time:
    Do you still drink shakeology?
    What are you doing besides Zumba?
    What do you think about macros, or IIFYM?

  3. Wow! I am shocked (and yet not, when I think about it) that someone would photoshop their photos to look thinner. I wonder why she posted her measurements, and are those even real #'s? Sad, grim, pathetic. I see some 'maintainers' and I can tell they are 'maintaining' only because they call it that; it's clear they have re-gained. A lot. It's sad.

    One look at my photos, and you can see the wrinkles, etc. I'm nearly 63. I'm real. Good, bad, ugly. I would never claim to be anything but what I am. Good for you for doing the same!

  4. That is really sad that someone would do that just so they could look better on their page. But the sad event is the truth. We are so convinced bc of social media and media in general that we have to look a certain way...and that just isn't reality. Obviously because the stars have bookoos of money and surgeries, trainers, expensive xyz to look the way they do. Some don't but I digress. Thank you for being you and being real. This is what I look up to and what motivates me. Not some girl down the street faking er way to the top. Great post and keep doing what you're doing!

  5. Wendy -- I am curious as to when you are going to be in your maintenance phase. You look really good and sometimes people stay in the lose phase longer than they need to. Fabulous results you real you.

  6. Wow, I can't believe someone would alter pictures of themselves that way to show their progress. It kind of defeats it. Thank you for being honest and real.

  7. It's so hard to not compare yourself to others and the progress they are making and maybe feel a little bad about yourself when you don't measure up. When that progress isn't real it's that much worse. I'd much rather see someone who shares their struggles and shows that they aren't perfect because really who is. thanks for sharing & keeping it real.



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