Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Blessings, Positivity, and Struggles

November is a time for all of us to count our blessings. I've noticed so many friends (myself included) on Facebook listing something they are thankful for each day in November. It's such a breath of fresh air for Facebook! I love seeing people acknowledge the little things that add up to very blessed lives. I feel as though Facebook can be such a negative thing at times. 

I admit that it's tough reading my Facebook feed. There's so much drama, negativity, and ugliness. I absolutely love seeing many of my friends and family combating the negativity with posts of their families, scriptures, inspirational stories, and joy! I love sharing in the happiness of others. 

Even though there is still a lot of happiness on Facebook, it can also invoke problems for others. 

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A lot of women struggle with insecurity and comparison. I admit I have been there. It's tough sometimes, especially when we are struggling personally. It is so very easy to get caught in the trap of comparing your life to what people present online. For those of us who do not abuse social media and load up our pages with negativity, you're only going to see the highlights of our lives. I don't know if you're like me, but I only post the happy stuff! Sure, it looks like my life is all sunshine and butterflies if you go by what's presented online. But the reality is I am a real person who struggles. There are some periods of my life that are easier than others. I am beyond blessed and I realize that. I focus on my blessings more as I get older and the negativity seems to not be such a big deal most of the time. 

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I believe in happiness and positivity. I believe in respecting my husband and family. Do I struggle with them sometimes? Yes! It's because we spend time together and are growing together. It's a natural part of life. 

I believe in not posting things I wouldn't want my own mother or my mother-in-law to read. I respect those two women and I value their opinions. If there's a question that I would bring them any sort of embarrassment, I don't post it! We all have those people in our lives.... the ones that we would hate to disappoint. Whoever that is for you, keep them in mind when sharing things on social media! 

I respect my employers and my job. I won't post anything negative about the company or people who have supported and cared for my family for all of these years. Complaining about a hard day's work once isn't worth tarnishing all of the times we have been taken care of over the years from a family owned business. The good far outweighs the bad, but people mostly remember the bad when you blast it on social media. 

I also understand that the internet lasts. It's not going to forget those really embarrassing or trashy pictures people are always posting! Anything I write or share could possibly be viewed by my own child one day. I can't possibly teach him to live a certain way if I don't do the same. How embarrassing is it going to be for some of these children when they get a little older and finally see how their parents have acted online? 

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I get overwhelmed easily. I resist change, even good change. I am OCD and it drives some people crazy. I seem snobby when you first meet me because I am so terribly shy and it makes me awkward. Most people realize I am far from snobby once they get to know me....and then I don't ever shut up. I talk way too much. I hog the middle of the bed. I roll my eyes even when I don't mean to. I am a planner and I expect everyone else to be on the same exact page at all times. I have very high expectations for people. I don't trust easily. I've had my heart completely broken. I've broken a few myself. I've hurt people. I'm bossy.....extremely bossy. I'm spoiled and I expect to maintain that status at all times. My memory is horrible. I get my feelings hurt so very easily. I take everything personally. 

I am flawed, but I am so blessed. I focus on the good and try to put the bad out of my mind. I can't change the past. I can only inspire, be kind, and appreciate things now. I try my best and I work hard. I'm just as flawed as the next person, but how I conduct myself is what makes the difference. A positive person attracts good people, looks for the best in all situations, and makes the most of the things given to them. It sometimes doesn't come naturally, but there's plenty of opportunities to practice it. 

Find the joy in your life. Count your blessings. Focus on all the things you can be thankful for. And be happy for those around you! It will change you inside and out. 


  1. I agree with you about Facebook. It can be a breeding ground for negativity and drama. I call it my free “background” checker, because you wouldn’t believe what some people freely post on there. I also understand being called a snob. Being from a family of outgoing socials, I am the quiet one. That is until they get to know me, and of course that is when they make their mistake. I have been known to talk way too much.

    1. We'd be great buddies in real life then! :)

      I understand the background checker part too! Sometimes I am just amazed.... People don't understand potential employers can see all that mess!



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